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Hardest month of my life or so I thought..

Wow! Just looking back on that month of being alone was the absolute hardest time of my life thus far it seemed. I was a single parent for about a little over a month with hardly any breaks and it was tough! Before I had gone back and forth about divorce and our marriage not working and how it would be better to leave and go it alone, but oh my gosh was it the absolute toughest time for me, and we were still married he just lived 3.5 hours away!
I say hard because, my partner normally would have been gone all day but he would have been back in the evening to help me get the kids to bed, and although he wasn't there for a huge amount of time, it was a good time of the day when I would be thoroughly fed up from the day and need to rest a bit. I missed that break. Plus on weekends both kids would constantly being fighting each other, it was overwhelming, plus my oldest always complained of being bored, while my youngest just wanted to go outside and have fun but I wasn't always able to because I had to pack up a whole house to move in several weeks! Not just packing either, selling off stuff, posting stuff for sale, leaving stuff on the side of the road, coordinating pick ups for items through freecycle, FB yard sale, and coordinating drop offs for moving supplies, and getting stuff to the storage unit, dismantling the backyard chicken coop and fencing and selling it off. That was just the stuff for moving, in addition to all of that, I had to coordinate with kids extracurricular activities and get them to and from outings. I frequently had to hire sitters weekly for my youngest because my oldest had 4H meetings and scout meetings/talks/outings, all things my husband would usually be home for to watch my youngest but wasn't anymore.

At the time of my small separation from my husband the father of one of my son's co-Scouts died suddenly from an illness. All of us Scout parents knew him, it was tough to understand his death for us all, because he was just up and walking around among us not too long ago and then he just suddenly passed away, so abruptly. In the midst of my craziness, I stopped and paused and realized that my problem wasn't that big a deal, I only had to be a single parent for a small while, I couldn't even imagine what it would be like for the Scout's mom. Who by the way was such a nice and giving lady. She was the one of very few, who helped me move, out of all the people I knew in town, besides my neighbor who was a real help too. She offered to come by and help me pack, which was a big help because I was exhausted and didn't really know where to start, so for her to come help me get started was just so nice, even tho I know she was going through a rough time.

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