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Relax: House is off the market

The house comes off the market over the Winter of 2017, we're getting deeper and deeper in debt, our house needs repairs before it can go back on the market via "For Sale By Owner" but we're broke and we don't know where to start. My partner starts every conversation off with "if we move", which is bumming me out. Not "if", "when!?", I say. I have faith that it will happen. I just have this feeling, you don't go through hell and not get anywhere. We've worked on selling this house for a couple of years and there is no way we give up.

My partner seems to have given up, so I assure him that this still needs to happen. I write a long letter because it's easier to get this out in a letter than through conversation, so I don't leave anything out.
I talk about how we can't have our in-laws pay for our mortgage anymore, there will be a time when the money runs out. We need to live somewhere where it is easier to live, our debt gets paid, and we can stop working 6 days a week, be with our family more, save money, enjoy time with our kids, plan vacations, and enjoy life again. Here, that is not going to happen, we live in a state where living is too expensive, it's time to make a change. We don't give up!

November, then December, the house sits off the market, and while it sits off the market, we're still not able to go anywhere, I am of course frustrated, but I have made plans to put the house back on the market in mid-March, to catch the Spring traffic we missed the year before because we weren't ready.

In December 2017, my mom visits she says "This is the year, people's dreams, needs and prayers come to pass." I say, I sure hope so, we've been waiting a long time for this house sale. She says once we do the repairs and put it up for sale in the Spring, it'll sell fast! I of course, say it will have to wait till tax refund time because we're hurting finance wise still.

January 2018 comes, my partner is at work and I get a phone call, "Hey! A job opened up in State 1, should I try and apply for it?!" We have a talk, because it's a big gamble to apply without researching a bit first, so he said he'll talk to the head manager at State 1's location. He calls the other location and talks to the head manager about the pay scale and what would happen if he applied and was selected, they talked about start dates and the hiring process when you are transferring from one location to the next. It all sounded promising, so after he talked to me, he applied and went for it.

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