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House Stress Part 1

Ok so after decluttering, having a yard sale, sending items to charity, sending items to friends or family members and learning to let go of things, we then had to sell the house!

I just want to say it took us about 1 year to prep the house to be viewable for showings/open houses and then another 9 months to be defeated by for sale by owner disappointments. One after the other. It's a constant roller coaster selling a home, one minute you feel like your light as air and everything is going great and then BAM! back down in the pit of your stomach feeling. Really stressful! So you can imagine the tension in our house, and I was no help when it came down to constant tension.

You need to do that I am a perfectionist, a person always striving to go the extra mile so to have others take over or delegate to others is a big issue for me because in the back of my mind it always feels like they're not going the extra mile to get it done the right way.

Ok so getting back to tension in the house and then mix in stress from house market and then mix in a perfectionist, and you got a whole lot a crap going on. People are getting angry, the process is taking longer than it needs to but you just keep trying and failing and trying and failing to sell this house.

I'm not saying that "for sale by owner" isn't something you can do because I know people personally who have had a lot of success selling "for sale by owner" and moved on happily. It took hard work, don't get me wrong, but they did it. It just didn't work for us. So we took the house off the market after 9 months of trying and didn't revisit it until we knew what are steps were going to be next.

Tips:
Don't put an offer on a house contingent upon you selling yours when people haven't even given you an offer yet on your home. That's a lot of pressure on you to find a buyer in order to move into your dream home. Don't do that to yourself. Happened to us and thank goodness the owner of the home we were trying to buy didn't except our offer, phew! That is way too much pressure.

You may think you are putting all of your house proceeds from the sale of your home towards your new home purchase in order to lower your monthly mortgage payments, but you aren't! Mortgage companies won't take more than they need in order to hike up monthly mortgage payments for you. So if you think you are putting all your money in and getting a $300 mortgage payment per month, HA! Mortgage companies don't allow it.

We of course learned this the hard way.

This was only Chapter 1 of our house sale stress, there is more....

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